Anal Sex Position Guide

Anal Sex Position Guide

The Anal Sex Position Guide provided by Eden Fantasys

Joseph

I found The Anal Sex Position Guide by Tristan Taormino to be fairly excellent.

There is not much explanation required for this one. Taormino likes her titles to be fairly telling of the subject matter and this book is no exception. It is an anal sex position guide.

As with all of Taormino’s work that I’ve seen, she prefaces the bulk of the book with information about responsible and respectful practices. This includes anatomical information, safe sex practices, a chapter about the importance of communication, a dispelling of common anal sex myths, and a good discussion about the importance of warm-up.

After she gives you the tools you need to succeed, Taormino jumps right into the position guide. She simply breaks down the positions with an explanation of how they are done, the pros and cons of each, and any variations to that position. Accompanying each position description is at least one picture of perfect, airbrushed people demonstrating the position and making faces that they think they would make if they were actually doing it. As you can probably tell by the snarky way in which I described them, perfect airbrushed people leave me with a bad taste in my mouth. However, I think they are fairly appropriate for this book. They are for demonstration purposes only so it is ok for them to be mannequins.

About the only issue that I have with this book (I have to have one problem with everything, it is in my nature) is the subtitle: The Best Positions for Easy, Exciting, Mind-Blowing Pleasure. I can agree that anal sex can be mind-blowing and is almost always exciting for one reason or another. However, I just can’t get behind (heh) calling it easy. Asses are finicky and everything has to be just right for anal sex to work and that ain’t easy. Taormino’s book certainly makes it easier, though.

Mimi

My experience with anal sex has been fairly standard in terms of positions – Missionary, Spooning, Doggie Style, Flying Doggie, and Horizontal Tailgate – with me almost always on the receiving end, so Tristan Taormino’s The Anal Sex Position Guide arrived here with a warm welcome. Sometimes a little extra nudge in the way of practical advice and men and women with bodies made of fantasy is what you need to try something new. And where ever you are in your anal sex escapades, The Anal Sex Position Guide is sure to offer you some useful information that is approachable and classy.

Similar to her writing in Opening Up, Taormino’s voice is friendly and casual, yet direct and clear in its attempt to guide. I feel like Taormino is someone I could talk to without feeling embarrassed or intimidated. It’s an excellent balance she creates in her writing. I love how she talks extensively about safe anal sex practices, lubricants, and toys for both men and women. This book will be most useful to someone who is new to anal sex, but it has other advantages for more experienced individuals. It’s also a great tool for instances where one individual in a couple wants to try something, but they don’t know how to bring it up or discuss it.

As you may or may not have picked up on, me and Joseph are gradually moving into anal play for him, which I have a little bit of experience with but hardly enough to count. Prior to our relationship, I was incredibly uncomfortable with the idea of using a strap-on and became squeamish at the mere thought of using one. It’s not me! I can’t tell what I’m doing! That sort of problem. Chapter 11 Anal Pleasure for Men & Strap-On Sex and Chapter 12 Positions for Strap-On Anal Sex were really useful and really comforting. I was open to the idea of using a strap-on with Joseph before reading The Anal Sex Position Guide, but now I am mentally, emotionally, and physically prepared to attempt this new and exciting activity in our lives.

I can sympathize with Joseph about the models, but I also think that, like Taormino mentioned in the book itself, anal sex is in a sense coming out of the shadows and when you’re presenting a concept that can be difficult for a lot of people, it’s important to try meeting them halfway. Glossy pages, sensual and warm colors, using a traditional perception of human physical beauty – these things make a book about putting things in your butt less… like putting things in your butt. I’m not ashamed of my actions – or my pleasure – and I don’t think I should be. I am a clean, healthy, self-respecting individual. Not everyone shares this perspective.

Also, I’m sure young, sexy, you’ll-never-look-like-this-and-you’ll-never-fuck-anyone-that-does-either models help books sell.  And I don’t mind Taormino making a buck. Or a lot of bucks.

In short, The Anal Sex Position Guide has offered me some needed confidence to pursue my interests. It has done so with style yet without pretention. Can’t argue with that.

The Naked Truth:

Design: ★★★★★

Readability: ★★★★★

Educational Value: ★★★★★

Overall: ★★★★★

We also have the encyclopedia of serial killers

It’s good to have hobbies.

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Book by Tristan Taormino
Format: Paperback
Publisher: Quiver

Confessions of a heterosexual

I have always been embarrassingly heterosexual.

I can’t help it, I just have no attraction whatsoever to men. I can appreciate a physically attractive man or a man with a charming wit and warm personality, but I have no desire to do anything beyond appreciate.

I think of this as a problem. Viewing Mimi’s pansexuality only makes things worse. Good grief, it is unfair. She is attracted to all people regardless of sex. Dudes, ladies, dykes, femmes, bois, transsexuals, pre-op, post-op, all of it! And I am only really attracted to women that resemble women.

The way I see it, I’m missing out on a whole lot of feeling and potential experience. It’s not like my sexual attraction to women is exponentially stronger than someone attracted to all sexes because I am only attracted to the one. It just means that I am missing out on all the others.

Let me post an exchange about porn star James Deen between Epiphora and Mimi from Twitter the other night as an illustration:

Epiphora – This discovery makes me happy: http://bit.ly/R88BV

undressedreview – @Epiphora He’s actually pretty attractive. Like, a lot.

Epiphora – @undressedreview Hence looking for scenes with him in them and whichever semi-attractive chick I can find. :)

undressedreview – @Epiphora I approve. Excellent idea. I’m kind of turned off by a lot of guys in porn, but he is… yes.

I looked at his pic and thought “That guy looks like he smells like weed.” I’m not saying that James Deen would necessarily do it for me, but NO GUY does it for me and it seems like a shame.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that being anything other than heterosexual is easy in this society. Men being attracted to other men is no joking matter in mainstream America. Because of the closed way that men are taught to think about sexuality and the systematic vilification of homosexuality, being attracted to the same sex can make your life hell in this country. I understand this. So please don’t think that I envision those with wider sexual preferences than mine as living in a sex-crazed state of euphoria. I just think that being attracted to more would open more vistas to me.

Sure, I’ve tried to be attracted to men. I do it all the time. I look at people and I think “He’s a good-lookin guy…I could…do sex stuff with him…” My heart (wang) just isn’t in it. I think I probably could have sex with a man. I could become aroused by the experience alone and probably have a decent time…I just wouldn’t be enjoying it because of the man per se. Sticking feathers up your butt does not make you a chicken.

My feelings about limited preference being detrimental are not limited to sexuality. I feel the same way about NASCAR, professional wrestling, country music, M.I.A., the artwork of Gustav Klimt, and eggplants.

-Joseph

Babeland Wishlist!

So Babeland has this excellent Summer of Love Contest going on and we never pass up the opportunity for free sex toys. Here is our wishlist:

G Curve Dildo – $60
http://store.babeland.com/dildos-silicone/g-curve-dildo
We like that it’s made of silicone, will hit my g-spot, and it’s harnessable so it meets possible, potential needs. – Her

We-Vibe – $130
http://store.babeland.com/vibrators-electric/We-vibe
Rechargeable, waterproof, versatile, easy to clean – it’s a totally bad ass toy! – Him & Her

Aneros Prostate Stimulator MGX – $58
http://store.babeland.com/safe-sex-sexual-health/aneros-prostate-stimulator
We’re interested in trying out prostate stimulation, and this toy appears to be good for beginners. – Him

Candy Apple Wrist Restraints – $62
http://store.babeland.com/bdsm-top-picks/candy-apple-wrist-restraints
These pretty red cuffs can be used with our under-the-bed restraints and will make it easier to take the party elsewhere if desired. – Her

Kookie Riding Crop – $18
http://store.babeland.com/bdsm-top-picks/kookie-riding-crop
Riding crops are quite sexy and we’ve never gotten around to using one, so this toy seems perfect to break us in. – Her

Nipplettes Vibrating Clamps (Black) – $36
http://store.babeland.com/bdsm-clamps/nipplettes-vibrating-clamps
We already love “normal” clamps and it’d be fun to try out a vibrating pair! – Her

Babelube Original 16oz. – $20
http://store.babeland.com/safe-sex-lubes/babelube
We ran out and need more of this excellent water-based, glycerin-free lube. – Him

I Rub My Duckie -$20
http://store.babeland.com/vibrators-discreet/ducky
It’s a vibrator shaped like a rubber duckie – of course we want it. – Him

Shunga Chocolate Body Paint – $15
http://store.babeland.com/sexy-gifts-top-pics/shunga-chocolate-body-paint
Two of the greatest things in life are sex and chocolate, which this product seems to bring together beautifully. – Him

Penis Cupcake Pan – $15
http://store.babeland.com/bachelorette-gifts-adult-novelty-toys/penis-cupcake-pan
I’ve always wanted to eat dick, but I’m not gay. – Him

Cuff Connector – $3.50
http://store.babeland.com/bdsm-equipment/cuff-connector
It would go with our Candy Apple Wrist Restraints. – Him

Edible Pasties – $5
http://store.babeland.com/bachelorette-gifts-adult-novelty-toys/edible-pasties
I want to wear these cute and silly little hearts to my bachelorette party. – Her

Smart Balls – $28
http://store.babeland.com/safe-sex-sexual-health/smart-balls
After reading more about the benefits of toning PC muscles, such as the possibility of more intense orgasms, I’m really interested in trying out this toy. – Her

Babeland Massage Candle Gift Pack – $25
http://store.babeland.com/sensual-massage/babeland-massage-candle-gift-pack
This seems like a trick to make me give her massages. – Him