Nina Hartley’s Advanced Guide to Anal Sex for Men and Women

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Nina Hartley’s Advanced Guide to Anal Sex for Men and Women had some valuable information and some hot anal sex. It also had some obnoxious imperfections.

It opens with Nina Hartley and Kylie Ireland sitting behind a table loaded with various sex toys and discussing safe and pleasurable techniques for anal sex. They candidly discuss everything from how to feel better about anal hygiene to how to properly clean sex toys once they have been in your ass.

After the lead in discussion, the film transitioned to the demonstration section. Nina Hartley does a scene with Christian that I thought was very hot. They talk to one another, they take turns playing with one another’s ass, and they made each other cum. Nina Hartley has a very real and very loud orgasm with Christian is fucking her ass and she is using a vibrator on her clit. She screams, she convulses, and she laughs. It is everything an orgasm should be and it is exquisite.

Hartley continues the education through most of this scene, stopping to briefly discuss technique and safety. It can be somewhat tedious at times, but it is nice that she is trying to stay true to the educational aspect of the program.

We then move on to a scene with Adrianna Nicole and Evan Stone that is really just a sex scene. There is no instruction and there is no anal play with Evan Stone. It seems somewhat as though Nina Hartley wanted to make an educational video but Adam & Eve Pictures told her that to do so, she must include a regular porn scene. It felt out of place. There was anal sex in it, but it was the same kind of anal sex you can see in almost any porn.

The obnoxious imperfections that I mentioned earlier are a couple of little things and one big thing. The little things are noises in the background and a boom mic being visible briefly. I know, I know…that’s nit picky cause this is porn, right? Well, I think that I a lot of the problem with the porn industry. Noises in the background would not get by on even lowest quality network television show. Just because you are cramming a pink rod up someone’s ass doesn’t mean it is ok accept mediocrity.

Standards, people, standards.

The big thing is that even though this is called Nina Hartley’s Advanced Guide to Anal Sex for Men and Women, there is no male on male anal sex in the film. That’s almost a deal breaker for me. For a guide to anal sex for MEN, there should be some homosexual male interaction. It seems like it should be obvious.

Despite that, it is definitely worth a view or two.


“There will be unsuccessful attempts along the way. You need to show compassion for yourself and your partner to get through them.” – Nina Hartley

Nina Hartley’s Advanced Guide to Anal Sex for Men and Women offers a lot of practical advice very quickly, such as what to look for in a sex toy and possibilities for use of a sex toy in addition to anal sex, and if an award was given to the best sex positive cheerleader, it would totally be Nina Hartley. I’ve never been so cheerfully encouraged to stick my tongue in someone’s ass before. She brings a lot of humanity to porn that I think is too often lacking. For example, at one point in the introduction scene with her and Kylie Ireland, friend and “co-host”, Nina Hartley mentions that warming up for anal sex is a process and that when people jump right into it in pornographic films, we’re not seeing all the previous activities leading up to that point. The film and the fantasy are separate from real life scenarios.

Casual, playful humor carries on through to Nina Hartley’s “demonstration” with Christian, which was, by the way, really hot. Some of the commentary Nina Hartley made during the scene was a little tedious (I can SEE what you’re doing there, you know), but overall, I found her comments, giggling, and smiling to be really charming. The environment was sexy, Nina Hartley was sexy, Christian was sexy, and they even managed to make the Hitachi Magic Wand look kind of sexy.

Most importantly (to me), the scene appeared to be very equal in regards to the performer’s individual pleasure, and knowing how much these beautiful people were into it made the scene especially arousing.  As Nina Hartley points out later to Kylie Ireland, it’s admirable for a man to communicate his desires in regard to receiving anal play because of all the homophobic pressures placed upon our men. There was quite a lot of discussion – visually supplemented by exposed breasts and lingerie – about confronting the taboos of anal sex.

My only complaints about the film are basically the same as those that Joseph already made, so I won’t repeat them in my own review. However, I will mention that the last scene between Adrianna Nicole and Evan Stone could be improved if their dialogue was more clearly audible since dirty talk was obviously a big component of the scene and might have made it special, but mostly I found their interaction annoyingly familiar and thus forgettable.

Also, no condoms? Anywhere? I realize that this is a debated issue in porn and often remains up to personal preference, but in an educational film about sex, especially anal sex, it seems really remiss to leave it out of discussion and out of “instructional” scenes.

As an aside, I have looked at some old photographs of Nina Hartley and in my opinion she now looks better than ever.

a typical evening

We are quick learners.

The Naked Truth:

Aesthetics: ★★★½☆

Level of Arousal: ★★★½☆

Educational Value: ★★★★☆

Storyline: N/A

Overall: ★★★★☆

Tristan’s Anniversary Edition Plug

Provided by our excellent friends at Babeland.

Tristan’s Anniversy Edition Plug


*Product has no arms and does not speak*


I feel like I have to preface this review with a few qualifiers:

I did not personally use the plug.

We did not have anal sex after She used the plug.

So with my limited interaction with this product in mind, here are my thoughts.

The plug looks to me like something that would be incredibly painful to try and insert into one’s anus. After seeing Her ever-so-slowly do just that, I have to say that it seems like my first impressions were correct. The total process took maybe half an hour and a lot of lube. She paused frequently and made many faces that made me think She was in quite a lot of pain.

When it was finally inserted, we had vaginal intercourse that was somewhat awkward. For me, it was almost uncomfortably tight as it is quite a large plug. It was not unpleasant and it may be something that is rather enjoyable for both of us once we become more comfortable with it.

So from my perception, it looks and feels well constructed, seems to clean up easily (rather important with this kind of toy) and the swirlies in it make me think of a bowling ball. Because my perception of this product is somewhat limited, I’ll let her give you the details on the rest.


Warning – This post is rather personal because I feel strongly about anal play in that it can feel really amazing, but it can also go terribly wrong. There’s a lot of misconception surrounding it, which I too have been a “victim” of in the past, and if I can be of any help to someone else through my own experiences, I would certainly wish to do so.

We had wanted to try anal sex together for a while, but since warming up with fingers used to gross me out, we were waiting for the right toy to come along. Given the opportunity to try Tristan’s Anniversary Edition Plug, we eagerly sought it, thinking this might be the toy to finally open up a whole other part of our sexual exploration.

I have much more experience with anal play than He does, but I am still very new to plugs; in fact, this is only the second of two plugs I have used. The first one was clear glass, smaller, and a bit slimmer in shape. As you can guess, the experience was quite different. My only complaint about that plug is that it would not stay inside of me without being held constantly. I was hoping for better luck this time.

My first impressions of Tristan’s Anniversary Edition Plug was that I liked the weight of it, the soft feel of the silicone, and its dark blue swirl design. No tender flesh irritating seam. No awkwardness in handling it because of the large base. And you can sanitize the toy by putting it in boiling water or in your dishwasher’s top rack without soap. (Just because it’s going in your butt, doesn’t mean it should lack sophistication.) I also observed its size. Larger than I had visualized in my mind.

When He was watching me insert the plug the very first night we received it, much like other occasions in which I used it (or tried to), I could tell that he was thinking things like, ‘She really likes this?’ and ‘Why on earth would anyone do this?’. My suspicions were confirmed when he suggested that I stop, gently and kindly, to let me know he wasn’t disappointed, only concerned.

It’s this kind of environment that makes experimentation and pushing boundaries feel really good, even when it doesn’t go according to plan, even when no one has an orgasm. It’s okay. Really. However, I am very stubborn – perhaps to a fault – and I push myself harder. This plug is an excellent toy for a lot of reasons, but perhaps not the best one for someone relatively new to anal toys. It’s certainly not a “warm up” toy. This toy is the whole fucking shebang. This toy is ready to own your ass, literally.

We had sex with it inside me once, which I enjoyed, but I was still rather uncomfortable. He didn’t seem particularly jazzed about it either. We did not think it reflected badly on the plug – or on anything, really – and simply resigned ourselves to trying again and again.

Well, we didn’t. After that time, the plug became increasingly more painful for me to attempt inserting, and since I do not believe (anymore) that a lot of pain is necessary for anal play, I stopped. We have since had anal sex, but it was completely without the inclusion of this plug. In one evening of determination, I told Him to give me some space while I try to make friends with the plug.

For an hour or so, I made a lubricated mess in bed as I experimented – first using a condom over my finger(s); then a condom over our Babeland Showerbabe, which does not have a base so it’s not ideal, but it has a handle, so I felt pretty safe with it; then my Hitachi Wand while also using the Showerbabe; and finally, ever so slowly, Tristan’s Anniversary Edition Plug. It was still difficult, but the whole experience was pretty painless. I learned that I am comfortable with fingers as long as they are covered with a condom or glove. And I had an orgasm. Not a bad night.

I also learned that I can crawl around on all fours with the plug inside of me, and that it will stay in place pretty well, which gave me ideas…

In sum, that last statement really represents how I think of this toy. I see it as a toy that you grow into, something you expand with. (No pun intended, but it’s sure as hell there.) It is, after all, a toy made to celebrate the ten year anniversary of the Tristan Plug, a butt plug designed by “Anal Sex Queen” Tristan Taormino, and changes are definitely in order after a while. If you have a smaller plug or one with a slimmer shape and you find yourself thinking you’d like to try more, then this plug would probably meet your needs perfectly. I am excited about the future evenings of determination and pleasure to come with this plug.

Note to our readers:

We will post an updated review once we have had some more fun with this product.

The Naked Truth:

Intensity: ★★★★★

Volume: N/A (unless you whimper)

Design: ★★★★★

Ease of cleaning: ★★★★★

Overall: ★★★★★