Tristan Taormino’s Expert Guide to Oral Sex: Part One Cunnilingus

This was a fun one!

Tristan Taormino’s Expert Guide to Oral Sex: Part One, Cunnilingus

On the shelf

Again, provided for us by our fabulous friends at Babeland

Joseph

I have read a good many cunnilingus guides in my time. I was a rather late bloomer, keeping my virginity until the age of 23. In my insecure mind, I thought that I was going to be rather disappointing to my first partner (which actually turned out to be true, but for different reasons than I expected) so I thought that I should learn ways to compensate for my inexperience. I read countless online tutorials. I even sampled some of the books at Barnes & Noble that claimed to be able to teach “tongue magic”.

I have been told by every woman that I have been with that I am quite skilled with my mouth. I don’t think that I am talented or gifted in that regard. I think the thing that sets me apart from most is that I enjoy cunnilingus. So much so that I daydream about making Her moan with nothing but my tongue and lips.

Looking back, I do not think that any of the guides or books had anything in them that was not common sense. “Listen to your lover,” and “Ask what she likes,” and “The clitoris is extremely sensitive.”

Tristan’s guide was much the same, but with people acting out the advice.

Broken up into several sections and scenes with different people, the DVD illustrates all of the teaching points with visual aid. Yes. People performing cunnilingus. As much as it markets itself otherwise, there is still a lot of  ”porn” element to this DVD. Men on women, women on women, with and without commentary. In addition to guided instruction, the DVD offers a good feature on safer cunnilingus which I am always in favor of.

This DVD would be great for young men or women seeking to get a good overview of technique and communication practice. It would be (and was) useful for a more experienced couple as a reminder to always slow down and experiment. Aside from moments when its porn roots show through, it gets my seal of approval.

Mimi

I am very lucky to have a partner that is notably talented at performing cunnilingus, so when we chose to get “Tristan Taormino’s Expert Guide to Oral Sex: Part One Cunnilingus”, it was not a rescue mission. In a bold stretch of arrogance, we had even considered that the video wouldn’t have anything to teach. If nothing else, we hoped to be comforted by the knowledge that a good, educational video about cunnilingus existed out in the world – one that people might actually watch.

We decided to go about it like this: he would watch the video alone, then work his magic when I got home, and then we could talk about any improvements that may have been made. I noticed that he slowed down more, and that was, primarily, the change. It makes a difference. Based on my experience and the things other women have told me, a lot of people tend to forget that they need to slow down, that the build-up is very important. The video emphasized that a lot, which I think is a really great thing.

It also emphasized experimentation (various ideas for tongue and hand movement were offered), sex toy use, and a woman’s responsibility to communicate her desires. Surely body language can offer a lot of useful feedback, but sometimes you really need to say, “Could you move your finger a little more to the left?” These are not things that we needed to be taught or reminded of, necessarily, but I’m sure it would be helpful for other people given how carefully these ideas and actions are presented to the viewer.

One thing that I really liked about the video, once I got around to watching it, was a special mini feature devoted to safer cunnilingus. Taormino narrated a young, attractive couple demonstrating each method in such a way that the information is clearly understandable and approachable in practice. Aside from condoms, which exist very near the surface of sexual conscientiousness, tools and methods of safer sexual activities always seem kind of awkward and mood killing. This video takes away some of that awkwardness.

There is, of course, a lot of cunnilingus in the video, with and without commentary. There’s also a “bonus” section where Justine Joli, a sexy redhead leading the hands-on workshop, and her assistant, Ariel, go at it on a couch, which didn’t particularly do it for me, although finally seeing the redhead naked was certainly fulfilling the promise of a bonus. It was a bit strange to hear standard “educational video” music as the background to blatantly pornographic scenes, but I think this DVD navigated the peculiar state of being educational and pornographic fairly well.

The Naked Truth:

Aesthetics: ★★★★★

Level of Arousal: ★★☆☆☆

Educational Value: ★★★★★

Storyline: N/A

Overall: ★★★★☆ – Given the fact that this DVD’s main purpose is educational.

X: The Erotic Treasury

This time we are reviewing X: The Erotic Treasury

Her with the Treasury and her favorite toy

This book was sent to us by our friends at Babeland

Joseph

I don’t actually have that much experiance reading erotica so I feel that I may have been somewhat more harsh on the qaulity of writing than is fair. For the most part, I found that the stories were varied and interesting as far as subject matter goes (fetishes galore) but that the actual craft of story telling left something to be desired.

Understand that each story is by a different author so there is of course a wide variety of style within the book. That means that while some of the authors did not appeal to me personally, others I found to be very well crafted.

The range of subject matter is truly astounding. There are 40 stories contained within the stylish red binding and each one focuses on a different fetish or sexual specificity. The nice thing about that is that you are bound to find something that you can appreciate. The problem there is that each story is so specific, you may only find one thing that apeals to you.

The bottom line for this book in my opinion is that it is a compilation. That means that if you are looking for a book to turn you on with each page, this is not it.

However, if you are interested in learning more about erotica in all of its various forms, this book is an excellent starting place. You will certainly be able to find something that you like and go from there.

Mimi

Reading erotica usually does more for me than watching pornographic films, probably because I can imagine people to my liking, instead of being faced with tanned, waxed, plasticized human-like beings getting it on. Most often, they remind me too much of the Barbie dolls I had as a child. (Coincidentally, they also fucked each other and had orgies. My bisexuality may in part be blamed on the fact that I only had one Ken doll, and he didn’t even have a dick.) It’s not sexy.

So when we ordered The Erotic Treasury, I was rather excited about the prospect of having a whole new book full of stories that are likely to arouse. Considering it’s a collection of stories, brought together by editor Susie Bright, I thought there’s bound to be at least a few kinky stories to my preference, and even some sick, twisted shit to make me laugh or squirm.

When it arrived and I held the dark, elegantly crafted book in my hands, I expected less of the sick and twisted, more of the well-written and sensual. It’s a book that I wouldn’t mind leaving out in the living room on my book shelf. Granted, I’m not really a shy or shameful girl, but let’s say my hyper-conservative mom comes over and looks at my books for whatever reason. Knowing she saw The Erotic Treasury won’t make either of us feel to disturbingly awkward. It’s pretty and doesn’t really give away the kinky exploits within.

That said, this book is quite kinky.

One story after another dives into a particular fetish – shoes, spanking, lactation, vegetables, etc. – and notably, there’s not necessarily sexual intercourse involved. I can respect that. BDSM, for example, can often be intensely sexual without explicitly involving sex. (Hopefully it does eventually, though, right? Right.) Many of the stories demonstrate an understanding or appreciation of the psychology of desire, of how the most erotic moments of our lives might have little to do with physical penetration.

My only complaint is that many of the stories are so specific in their primary modes of attraction that despite being, for the most part, well-written, a reader might feel a strong reaction and connection to only a few stories in the collection of forty. Some of the humorous or novelty characteristics end up distracting from instead of contributing to the stories. However, even if the fetish within a story is not your idea of a good time at all, the writers often describe the sensations associated with desire and sex well enough that it’s often at least a littlearousing. If nothing else, it’ll spark your imagination.

The Naked Truth

Design: ★★★★★

Readability: ★★★★☆

Educational Value: N/A

Overall: ★★★★☆

Babeland’s Showerbabe

*Update* This product seems to no longer exist at Babeland.

Today we are reviewing the Showerbabe which is available exclusively at Babeland

The Showerbabe

Joseph

I was pretty excited about this product because due to height difference and a small shower, we can’t have intercourse in the shower without the inclusion of a stool (which is awkward) so this product meant new ways to play in the shower.

Overall I am very pleased with the Showerbabe. It has two intensity settings which have not been enough to get her off by itself, but have been a great companion to my fingers or tounge. The settings are activated by a button on the bottom of the handle which can be somewhat awkward to use while the Showerbabe is inside of her. However, the handle itself is great because things do tend to get slippery in the shower.

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