Review Series: Bend over Beginner – Part 1

Bend over Beginner Kit provided for review by Babeland


We live in a very strange culture. On one hand there is sex in nearly every advertising message that we see. And boy do we see them. It is estimated the average American is confronted with 3,000 advertising messages in some form per day.

Then on the other hand, our national stance on sex is the equivalent of sticking your fingers in your ears and shouting LALALLALALLALA! I am referring, of course, to the fact that a huge number of schools in this nation still teach abstinence only sex education. Because if you don’t teach kids about sex, they won’t have it!

This type of ignorance mixed with over stimulation often gives rise to confusing feelings and the proliferation of misguided concepts about sex and sexuality. Don’t tell me that you have never heard the ludicrous assertions “If I have sex on my period, I can’t get pregnant” or “Well, a blowjob is not sex so you can’t catch anything from giving one“ or the slightly more articulated “If a man receives anal sex, that makes him a fag.”

I grew up in this environment (and I imagine most of you did, too) and while I was able to get my hands on good solid information about sex and sexuality, I am still aware of the general climate in which I live and operate.

It is with that in mind that I announce our first ever review series: The Bend over Beginner kit from Tantus. The reason that we have chosen to do this in a series is because pegging is a very sensitive subject both where we live and at large. We are hoping that by going slowly with this subject, we can cover it more completely and address some of the issues that people have with it.

In this installation we are simply going to talk about the product itself.

The kit is two 100% silicone dildos (7/8″ x 4-1/2″ and 1-1/4″ x 5-1/2″), an adjustable (up to 60″) velvet harness with a pocket for the included bullet vibrator. It also has an interchangeable O-ring in case you want to use larger dildos.

As always with Tantus, the quality of all the materials seems very high and everything is easily cleanable. The harness is machine washable and the dildos can be sanitized via boiling or washing with bleach.

The next installment will cover how the harness fits, warm up and the use of the smaller dildos.

Do YOU have any experience pegging or being pegged? Share your experience with us. Either leave a comment or send us an email. Whichever you are more comfortable with.

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  • Kayla says:

    I peg with my boyfriend. We’ve been enjoying it for a long time. I guess we’ve become pretty comfortable with doing it. I’m looking forward to this series.

    • Michael says:

      Your boyfriend is lucky. I had an ex back in college who wanted to try it, and I was game. We had an open relationship and she liked the company of women, so she already had the strap-on. Once I got over the initial discomfort it was great.

      My current partner, however, says she’d never be able to do that. It’s not so important to me as to be a deal breaker, but it’s a shame. Good on you (and great for him) for getting past the stigma.

      • Undressed says:

        Indeed, I’m super proud of him and I feel really lucky to be in this position. I can understand, from the female perspective, not wanting to do it because it’s foreign territory that requires a position of dominance. Some women just can’t get into that. Plus, there’s the whole poo factor, which some people have difficulty with. Maybe someday your current partner will be able to reconcile her difficulty with it.

        - Mimi

  • Milkman says:

    Late in coming to this, but oh well. My experience with pegging is (sadly) limited – double ended dildos don’t work well in my experience. It’s a big turn on for me; I would love to have a traditional “strap-on” used on me, but alas my wife is a large woman and few harnesses actually fit her. This one would… though the size of the dildos shown would leave me wanting – even if both could be used at once. I need a large harness that can handle large (extra large?) toys… I regularly use toys anally on myself (at least once a week) and go for ones quite a bit more substantial. I suppose I’m something of a size queen, but being straight makes the term more awkward.

    It’s not quite the same, but I’ve gotten my wife to fist me a few times and I love it. She’s always worried about hurting me, though, so we don’t do it near as often as I’d like. I also need to make sure to clean out well beforehand (which I’m used to before playing with myself, anyway, so it’s not a big deal; just means less spontaneity). It’s a shame that she’s worried, I have and enjoy toys that are larger than her fist and she’s enjoyed watching me use them.

  • Adema says:

    in a past relationship myself and my lover used a double ended dildo and a regular strapon dildo for some anal play, both of which were quite enjoyable. it was during a large blooming period for me so i was very eager to spend money and have fun with it all, however there were some things i wish i had done better. first, i would’ve research how to buy a good dildo. i purchased a star performer “leading man,” which is an 8.5×2.25 dildo with balls and a suction cup. and let me tell you, while that thing worked, it was AMAZING. but, after only a short while, it started to burn horribly when i used it, so it was no fun at all! this is when i learned about phthalates. steer clear of dildos with phthalates they’ll hurt you and wont last long! secondly, i would’ve been a little more sensitive that i was asking my girlfriend to suddenly pretend she had a penis. we were very open with discussion on most things, but i later found out she bared some resentment to the experience. but all in all, i love pegging and am actually looking to purchase a new harness and dildo soon. possibly something from Basix by pipedream, all hypo-allergenic and phthalate free!

    keep up the good work!

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